💨 Abstract

The author, Eve Stanway, reflects on her childhood, where she was praised for her memory and other traits, which she now sees as survival strategies due to her unstable upbringing. She discusses how constant praise can pressure children to perform, leading them to confuse approval with connection. Stanway, a psychotherapist and divorce coach, suggests shifting from praise to presence, encouraging curiosity and allowing children to explore their true selves without the burden of constant performance.

Courtesy: Eve Stanway